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This is 100% the conversation that I want to have with parents. If I have the boy who asks if he can give his allowance to the mom asking for money in front of our grocery store, then I have succeeded, even if he is struggling to write a 5 paragraph essay. We are passing on a world to them that I can’t understand as a grown-up but for them it’s just the world. I see all this hope and excitement in my boys for the future and it reminds me to keep paying attention and growing right along with them. Thank you for this unbelievably thought provoking post.

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Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

So necessary... thank you, Courtney. The passage on instant jammies reminds me of Aldo Leopold's Sand County Almanac in the virtues of getting closer to land and means of production and limits: “There are two spiritual dangers in not owning a farm. One is the danger of supposing that breakfast comes from the grocery, and the other that heat comes from the furnace.”

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Wow, love that. Thank you.

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Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

Oh Courtney. Once again you have touched my heart and tickled my neurons. Just yesterday I got my copy of Sojourners March magazine in the mail with a cover article entitled 'Dancing in the Dragon's Jaw: Raising our Children for Joy Amid Climate Catastrophe'. While the author is not as deeply poetic as you and writing for a Christian audience, there are nuggets of wisdom like: 'We welcome our children into a vulnerable space of fear and uncertainty. And that is a beautiful thing. Trust these hallowed spaces of unknowing to be fertile ground for our kids' imaginations and for all of our hearts to grow.' My own sons are now tall and handsome men - the oldest turns 33 on Saturday - but I know the grand-babies will come one day soon and I hold space for the great mystery of how they will arrive perfectly prepared for the hurting world into which they have been born.

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Oh love this. We need so many writers and perspectives on this, don't we? Can only imagine what an incredible grandmother guide you will be!

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Why must it be only 6 minutes? Please try to fit into your extremely busy schedule more time for your listeners than this because just the sound of your voice is both stimulating and comforting, ever since I first listened to your "slam poetry" at Columbia and the Nuyorican Poets Cafe (how many of your fans can claim hearing this double bill?). Anyway, the final sentence of this superlative piece made me think again of why I don't like the Bible's admonishment: "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child; but when I became a man(!), I put away childish things." (Corinthians 13:11). Then, in today's NY Times, there's an op ed trying to explain away ambivalence about the Cosby Show that commends this Biblical verse (2/16/p. A.21). I'll take Courtney's wisdom to either of these sources, so thanks once again for setting interpretations of childhood straight. Love as always, DD

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Ah DD, I love this. I have sometimes worried we romanticize childhood, but I really do think children are such incredible teachers, including in their playfulness (aka "childish things").

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Feb 16, 2022·edited Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

Thought provoking as always. The idea of appreciating limits resonates with me. I tend to fool myself intp thinking that things are forever (homes, cars, computer, family members, pets). It's that thinking that allows me to look past the over-consumption tendencies and willful blindess to the consequences. I want to savor the time I have with my parents. Melanie's comment reminds me to slow down and appreciate the spaces we live within.

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Yes, thank you. It goes both ways--the teaching and the savoring.

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Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

THIS is the discussion I want to be in. Thank you Courtney.

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I thought about knocking on your door to sit around the fire!

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Feb 17, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

Oh is this so right on and gorgeous. Thank you. I needed to hear this!

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Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

This is an awesome piece. A huge bow of gratitude for sharing your wisdom today.

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Loved this. Thank you for sharing.

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Feb 16, 2022Liked by Courtney Martin

Brilliant piece! Thank you....

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Thank you, Courtney (& Tom) for your wisdom, and always honest explorations,

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