Is there anything more insufferable than a white person trying not to be racist? You know the type--she’s so well-intentioned, but also inevitably a little annoying, checking and re-checking every one of her instincts and assumptions, turning apologies into events, reading all the right books, but shying away from creating real relationships with people of color for fear that she’ll screw it up. You might even be the type. I know I have been at different moments.