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This was remarkably beautiful, Courtney. Thank you.

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Great story and message, Courtney, beautiful because it’s so true! Congratulations!

Sharron and I met in Kathmandu on an exchange program in 1960. We’re married now almost 62 years, with two sons, four fantastic grandchildren and celebrating our incredible good fortune in Honolulu today. Happy Day to all!❤️. DD

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Absolutely needed this, and what a pleasurable morning read. ❤️

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Deep, good, sweet, lovely words . . . .

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Feb 14, 2023Liked by Courtney Martin

Such a generous gift! Thank you always dear Courtney!

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Feb 14, 2023Liked by Courtney Martin

Thanks for this beautiful reminder.

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Courtney Martin

Wow. What a beautiful and accurate testament to what a healthy marriage can be. Thank you

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Feb 15, 2023Liked by Courtney Martin

Beautiful. Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, thank you for sharing 💕

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Beautiful and true in my life, too. Thank you.

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This is exquisite. Thank you so very much for it.

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Feb 14, 2023Liked by Courtney Martin

yes, yes, yes.

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This was such a incredibly lovely read! Thank you.

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"a love story has to be written and re-written, over and over again if it is to survive. A couple is not just a commitment in terms of sexual fidelity and household labor, but a commitment to an evolving idea. "

Yes. This. All of this.

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Beautiful. I loved this - The real, deep story is the silence we live inside—car rides where I reach my left hand over and he grabs it and we just look out the window and breathe together.

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Thank you, Courtney - beautiful writing. This post is triggering because I have not accomplished what you have - an evolving long-term relationship. But triggering is good because it exposes the stuff that needs work. There are too many social justice editors out there telling us, "we can't say that," so we write on eggshells to avoid someone else's pain point being activated. I have had three significant relationships during my adult life and three beautiful children. Every time I have left a relationship, I have felt guilty because I couldn't last the distance, so I must have failed. At the end of my last marriage, I chose a different narrative - I am an 'other' in relationship speak - not a failure, just not a 'lifer'. I'm still working on it all, but I am relishing my singleness and the growth space I have created. I often regard the longevity of other people's love stories and sometimes think that is all that is left. Then I read your story and reflect that we are all 'others' trying to get through and make sense of it all along the way. Go well. Melissa

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I love, love, love this! So happy to have spent the last few minutes reading.

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